Choosing a name for your child can be a difficult thing to do, especially when you consider that your child will keep that name for the rest of his or her life. How do you choose a name for your child?
Choose a “Popular” Name
Many parents I know took a look at the popular baby name lists and chose a name from the list. Those who wanted a more “original” name chose one farther down on the list.
My one friend told me that an added benefit to this method was that it reduced the amounts of complaints about the name they had chosen for their son. When her mother in law complained that she didn’t like the name, my friend mentioned that it happened to be one of the most popular names in the United States. Her mother in law dropped the conversation at that point.
Chose An Ethnic Name
It’s becoming more and more popular for parents to chose ethnic names for their children. This is a great way to celebrate your cultural heritage. However, consider the fact that an ethnic name could create some difficulties for your child down the road. A friend of mine married a man from the mid-East and they gave their child a mid-Eastern name. It has been difficult for this child and she is considering using her middle name instead of her first name because of the prejudice she’s faced.
Choose A Name YOU Like
This sounds simple, but it can be difficult. You don’t have to name your son after your husband just because your father in law demands that you do so. Remember that it is your child! It’s also important to speak up if you really don’t care for the name that your spouse or significant other has picked out.
Keep It Confidential
One of the best bits of advice I got from an older mother was to keep our name choices confidential. I didn’t follow her advice with my first pregnancy, and I regretted that decision. It seemed all the relatives were more than eager to tell me names that they liked; some even went so far as to suggest cute little spelling for the names they’d picked out! Others actually sent me lists via mail or email and then followed up with phone calls to see if I liked any of the names they’d picked!
My the time our son was born two years ago, I’d gotten the hang of this baby naming thing. I simply told the relatives that we’d picked out names, but we weren’t sharing those choices with anybody until after the child was born. It worked! I so regretted not taking my friend’s advice several children ago.
Another little known fact to consider, if you name your child and a few days later decide that you’ve REALLY made a big mistake, all is not lost. Most states have a grace period where you can change your child’s name for free.
How did you decide on your child’s name? Please post!